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I have been noticing a disconcerting trend lately when it comes to RSVPs, in both my personal life and my professional one. I’m not sure what it is exactly about people having a hard time sticking to their replies, but all I know is that it drives me batty.
I’ve been working with one of my clients to arrange a special event where media are invited into the kitchen to cook with the chef, allowing them an extra special behind the scenes look and one-on-one time with a real chef. The event is today.
Yesterday afternoon, I was finalizing up some last minute details and decided to send out e-mails telling all of the attendees that I was looking forward to meeting them. And that’s where it all started to unravel. At that time I had 9 confirmed guests and 2 in limbo. Then I started receiving last minute replies from people who suddenly had to cancel because “something came up,” or they just plain out forgot and double booked themselves.
This pisses me off more than you can know! Not only has my client been working hard to prepare an event for 11 people and now there are only 5 attending, but I have put a lot of time and effort into following up with people to secure attendance. I know things come up last minute sometimes, but could you have the courtesy to let me know before 5:45 p.m. the day before the event? I’m thinking if I hadn’t sent out my “Can’t wait to meet you” e-mail, some people may have just not shown up without saying anything at all. And that is just not acceptable, no matter what.
It’s just a really crappy situation, whether work or personally related. Anytime you have an event, a lot of effort goes into preparing for it. And when people don’t show up, or even worse, don’t let you know that they aren’t coming after all, you get screwed. You’ve put in a lot of time and effort that can’t be recovered.
Like I said earlier, I’m not sure what’s gotten into people. If you have told someone you are coming to an event and can’t for some reason attend, please let them know. Don’t think that it won’t matter if you just don’t show up, because it will. At least if the host knows in advance, they can scale back their preparations.
I know I sure as hell let people know if I end up not being able to make it to something I’ve RSVPed “yes” to.
And with that, I’m on my way to my client’s event that I’m sure will be a lot of fun, small amount of people or not.
As you all may recall, neither T nor I are very religious. In fact, we are total Catholic flunkies. Which is part of the reason we chose to be married by the Reformed Catholic Church. Any way, this means we really don’t participate in many overly religious traditions. Except for this year.
I have to say, it’s gotten pretty bad. I am a lazy mofo. I cannot even tell you the last time I actually hit the gym. Realistically it was probably before the wedding. Sad, I know.
I am tired of feeling like I am packing on the pounds, which is exactly what I am doing. Since the wedding, I have put on about 7-10 pounds. I’m not sure of the exact amount because my weight it pretty fluctuatey (totally just made that word up), but I know it’s gone up.
Some of my pants are a little more snug than they used to be. Some of my tighter shirts are starting to accentuate my ab flab, which is so not cute. I am dreading putting on a bathing suit in a few months.
Plus, I know I’m not being as healthy as I could be. Sometimes it’s just hard to break the cycle. Growing up, I was always slender and could eat what I want. Now that I’m older and have my ass parked at a desk for 9 hours a day, I have to realize that I can’t eat whatever I want, whenever I want. I also need to lay off the non-light beer. Definitely don’t need to keep drinking away my calories.
I don’t want to do anything drastic. I will try to make healthier food decisions, which means eating out less. Or if I do eat out, I will make sure not to eat the entire portion. What I really need to do is get active. There is no excuse for me being such a bum. I’m 26. I should be able to be in shape, be healthy, and have killer abs.
So, for Lent this year I am giving up being lazy. I will make myself work out at least 3-4 times a week. I will actually use my gym membership that I pay for and never reap the rewards of. I am tired of feeling pudgy.
I am going to track my progress on my blog. And I want you to hold me responsible. If you think I sound like I’m slacking off, please encourage me to get off my lazy ass! I need some serious motivation to get this going.
Are you giving up anything for Lent? If so, what?
As I have mentioned here before, I am planning a few bigger trips in 2009. The first trip is to New York in May for my friend Jewels’ wedding. The second is a trip to Germany/European adventure. Naturally I have been scouring the Web for some flight deals. I’m getting all of the deals from Sherman’s Travel and Smarter Travel that constantly tout great sales and super discounted prices nationally and internationally. Since I am a sucker for a bargain, I always click the link. Only to be disappointed.
Nothing gets under my skin more than receiving an e-mail about round trip flights for $74 one way. Yeah, frigging right! By the time you enter in your locations, pick your dates and hit submit, the price is usually double what the special sale e-mail says, especially once the fees have been tacked on. This really frustrates me.
I’d rather know the price up front. Don’t try to bait and switch me with “sales” then attack me with $50 dollars of hidden fees. Be up front! The way all airlines handle it now, I feel like they are trying to sneak attack my back door, if you know what I mean. I’d much rather see a ticket advertised for $120 one way with all the taxes and fees included. I don’t know if it’s just me, but $120 is still not too expensive.
Today for example, I booked mine and T’s trip to NY through AirTran because they are having an awesome sale. Seriously, go check it out. We need to go to NY Memorial Day weekend, so all the tickets I had previously researched had been upwards of $300 per person. And that just wasn’t going to fly (haha, pun intended).
So, I was able to find flights up there for $74* per person one way and $84* per person back (the * signaling all of the evil fees and taxes that have not been included into the glorious price posted on my computer screen). This isn’t bad at all, and I am fine with the amount. But then I get the total break down, and I am annoyed.
This is what it looked like:
Air Fare $316.00 <— This is the price that the sale stated.
Federal Segment Tax $14.40 <—Annoying, but I know that everything gets taxed.
Airport Passenger Facility Charge $18.00 <—Seriously, what is this? Couldn’t this just be added into the price from the get go?
September 11th Security Fee $10.00 <—Same with this guy. Why tack it on at the end? It just looks shady.
Other Fees $24.00 <— This is really sketchy. Why don’t you say it’s the cost of the seats that I was charged $6 for per person each way? Charging for a seat, that’s pretty sneaky. What I am supposed to do? Float? Hang from the overhead luggage compartments? Sit on the ground?
And don’t even get me started on charging for luggage. We aren’t allowed to bring a variety of items on the plane in the first place, so how in the hell do you expect us (especially females – I know I have a ton of crap that I need to bring with me) to travel?
In the end, our total cost for the tickets was $382.40, which ends up including $66 in fees. I know we still got a deal, especially for traveling around a holiday. But I still feel like someone was trying to pull the wool over my eyes. And I am not cool with that.
Nerdy side note – I just did a comparison to some other flights we had taken to NY in 2008, and we really hit the jackpot. Last May, around Memorial Day weekend, I paid $231 for one flight to New York. Around Christmas it was $450 for two flights.
I feel like I’m in a bit of a blogging rut lately. I just feel like my creative juices have been zapped for some reason. I think it’s because I’m over working and would just love a day off!
Anyway, I stole this meme from Jess because I thought it would be a fun way for my readers to learn more about T and our relationship!
What are your middle names?
Mine is Maria. His is John. <—very Biblical sounding
How long have you been together?
A little over nine years…long time, huh? Married for 6 months tomorrow! 🙂
How long did you know each other before you started dating?
I knew T for about 2 months. I met him in 11th grade when my family moved from Georgia to New York. We had a few classes together and rode the same bus.
Who asked whom out?
T did the asking, and of course I said yes because I had the biggest crush on him!
How old are each of you?
I’m 26 and T is 25. He’ll turn 26 in April.
Whose siblings do you see the most?
My sister since T’s bros still live in New York. I wish we got to see them more though!
Which situation is the hardest on you as a couple?
I would have to say T’s job. He is constantly working, so we never see each other, and we have little time to hang out during the week. Last week he worked almost 80 hours (including Saturday)!
Did you go to the same school?
Yes. We went to the same high school for 2 years, then the same college.
Are you from the same home town?
No, he’s from Poughkeepsie and I’m from the Atlanta- area (even though I was born in Germany, I claim Georgia as my home since I’ve lived her most of my life – 17 years).
Who is smarter?
We are both smart, but I’d say T is probably smarter when it comes to number crunching and booky things. He always does really well with test taking and math – I was not so great with either of those things.
Who is the most sensitive?
I’d say me, even though he has his moments. I’m the one who cries at commercials and movies.
Where do you eat out most as a couple?
We try to bounce around, but we have our standards – Tree House, Fox and Hound, Figo Pasta.
Where is the furthest you two have traveled together as a couple?
I’d have to say Germany since most of our other trips have been along the east coast or Mexico.
Who has the craziest exes?
I think his exes are crazier since I’ve met them both before. One actually became a lesbian a few years after they broke up and hit on me when I met her. She even tried to cop a cheap feel on my boob. That was awkward!
Who has the worst temper?
I have a terrible temper. If you upset me, I’ll make sure to let you know. T has a bit of a temper too, but he’s better at controlling it than I am.
Who does the cooking?
We both love to cook, but because of his crazy schedule and working until midnight, I do most of the cooking for the moment. We both do cook together on the weekend though.
Who is the neat-freak?
Neither one of us is super neat. In fact, we are more clutter-freaks. But we both have our moments where we freak out because things are so messy and have to clean right. that. instant.
Who is more stubborn?
T would like to say it’s me, but he is pretty stubborn too. I guess it would depend on what it concerns as to who is more stubborn. I may have the slight edge over him though…
Who hogs the bed? We don’t really hog the bed. We’re either both snuggled up next to each other or rolled onto opposite sides of the bed. If anyone is a bed hog, it’s Fado. For a small cat he sure takes up a hell of a lot of room!
Who wakes up earlier?
That would be me, even though it’s never very early. T loves to sleep and sometimes I feel like I have to drag him out of bed on the weekends so he won’t sleep the whole day away.
Where was your first date?
I honestly don’t even know if we had a first date. We got drunk one night in the woods in high school with some friends, made out, told one another how much we liked the other, and the rest is history. We probably did end up going to a movie after I wasn’t grounded anymore for coming home tipsy.
Who is more jealous?
Neither of us, really. We are both pretty laid back and chill.
How long did it take to get serious?
We decided to apply to some of the same colleges in the beginning of our senior year. I’d say things got cemented when he moved to Georgia so we could go to school together.
Who eats more?
Definitely T. It’s funny, but his nickname is Fat Ass because he will get in these kicks where he’ll eat everything in sight. And when he doesn’t finish something, our friends freak out!
Who does the laundry?
I pretty much do most of the laundry. I’m sort of anal with separating things and if they can be dried or not. T does help fold, sometimes…
Who’s better with the computer?
T is really good, but I can definitely hold my own. Together I think we’re a pretty good team!
Who drives when you are together?
We trade off, but I feel like I make T drive more! 😉
Sorry for the fluff post, I promise I’ll be better tomorrow.
I’m feeling a little brain dead this week, and don’t have the time or energy to do my restaurant reviews, so they will have to wait till next week. Instead, I am leaving you with this fun and exciting meme that I’ve seen going around on Facebook. I’m not going to tag anyone specifically, but feel free to steal it. Remember, sharing is caring – I’ll provide you with a post option when you have none! 🙂
The rules are: Using only song names from ONE ARTIST, cleverly answer these questions….
Pick Your Artist: Bush (to this day, they are still my favorite band. I really hope they get back together on day!)
Are you male or female: X-Girlfriend
Describe yourself: A Tendency to Start Fires
How do you feel about yourself: Warm Machine
Describe where you currently live: Land of the Living
If you could go anywhere, where would you go: Out of This World
Your best friend is: Straight No Chaser
Your favorite color is: The Chemicals Between Us
You know that: My Engine is with You
What’s the weather like: Cold Contagious
If your life was a tv show, what would it be called: Everything Zen
What is life to you: Greedy Fly
What is the best advice you have to give: Comedown
If you could change your name, what would it be: Glycerine
Yesterday at lunch I got asked out to drinks via a business card. Very random, and it totally ties into my post from Friday. Basically here’s what happened:
My co-worker and I decided to go grab lunch at this little restaurant by our office because they serve gyros on Mondays. And who can say no to a gyro? Not me. The restaurant is located on the property of this little airport, and they have a covered patio that looks over the runways so you can watch the planes come and go. We were sitting in the corner of the patio, next to this older guy (40s-50s) and a really old man. The older guy kept looking towards me, but I thought he was looking at the runway because it was behind me, so I didn’t think much of it. Plus I was too into my gyro to really pay attention. He glanced over a few more times, then they left.
A few minutes after they left, a waitress (not ours) came over and handed me his business card. On the back there was a note that said I was gorgeous and he would love to get drinks one day. He signed it with his name and phone number.
I can say that has honestly never happened to me before. I’ve only seen things like that in the movies. When the waitress came over I thought maybe he was buying our lunch or something, which would have been awesome. But no, he wanted to take me out.
It annoyed me slightly because the way he was angled, he could totally see my wedding and engagement rings because I had my left hand resting on the table. The other thing, he had at least 20-25 years on me. I’m sorry, but I wouldn’t want to date someone my parents age even if I were single. Just cause Hef can bag 18 year olds at 82 doesn’t mean every guy can!
Even though he will never get a call, it gave me a funny story!
Do you have any funny hitting on stories to share?
Valentine’s Day was fun. At first T and I had planned to spend the day in Piedmont Park, but the weather was a little shady so we just vegged at home and caught up on our TiVo. That night we went out to dinner at one of Atlanta’s finest steakhouses (I will do a review tomorrow).
Right before we were supposed to leave, I had a minor meltdown because neither of the new dresses I had ordered were fitting correctly, and basically my boobs were just hanging out* of one and the other looked like a mumu. So I had to do some major rummaging to find something else that was cute to wear. By the time we left for dinner, I was totally stressed out because I was not loving my outfit. But we did have fun at dinner, even though it cost a small fortune (we may have had to each give an arm and a leg to pay for it).
T gave me 2 funny and random presents, and I got him Pineapple Express, which we still haven’t had a chance to watch because he’s been working like a maniac.
The first gift was a Stuff on My Cat daily calendar. I love this site and the calendar is so funny! I tried to get Zoey on there once, but as far as I know she never made it.
T also got me a Domo. He’s so strange sometimes, but it’s cute because it’s the V-day one. It’s sitting on my desk right now. My mom said it was the perfect gift for me because I can be all sweet, but then I bare my teeth when I get mad. Maybe that’s why he got it for me…
I think I may look like this when I get angry!
Today I went to the DMV to pick up new tags for my car since my parents have signed it over to me. We decided to wait until I got married and changed my name so I didn’t have to go through the title madness twice.
My dad signed it over to T and me. I got to the DMV, and there was (surprisingly) no line. I walked up to the window and found out that T has to be there to sign something since his name is on the title (figures!). I called and asked him to come meet me. Of course he’s under major deadlines and couldn’t leave. The DMV gave me a power of attorney form and told him to sign it, then I could get tags on my own.
I drove to where he is working (past where I work) and dropped off the papers since there is a notary in the building he is at. And now I get to try again tomorrow around lunch time, which I’m sure will take forever, because I can’t miss another morning at work. HATE!
Being female is interesting sometimes. I feel like you experience certain things that a majority of guys never do. I love being a woman with curves and height, being able to wear a variety of clothing and shoes. It’s nice to have so many options in life, even though I would love to be able to pee standing up. Guys, you have no idea how lucky your are by getting to use urinals instead of hovering over nasty public toilets…shudder.
Anyway, being female definitely has it’s perks, but it also has it’s downfalls as well. I consider myself to be an attractive person. I’m tall, slender with a big chest, and I’m happy with my looks. My husband has no complaints (he’s hot too so neither do I 🙂 ) Apparently other guys don’t either.
This morning, I was walking into Chick-fil-a (heaven on earth!) to get some breakfast because I had a serious craving for a buttery chicken biscuit. I went inside, picked up my food, and walked back to my car. Let me preface this by saying what I’m wearing today – I have on a shortish red sweater dress with gray leggings, gray boots, and at that time I was wearing a gray fleece that was zipped up – it’s nothing fancy or too revealing. As I’m heading across the parking lot, sipping on my diet Dr. Pepper, I hear it
“Hey girl! How are you doing today?” Stare, stare, stare…
I turned my head to see a carload of construction guys piling out of a car, staring over at me. I said fine and got into my car. I’m not a bitchy person, and to be nice will normally answer a question if the person or people aren’t too sketchy, but I’m married. I’m not trying to pick up guys. And even if I was, it would not be in the parking lot of the best fast food restaurant ever.
Other times I can be at the ATM getting money or walking into a store, and I will hear a honk or a holla from a guy(s) in a passing car. It makes me laugh, and reminds me of when I was 16 and we were first driving and yelling at cute guys. But these people are grown men. Seriously? Get some game man. You will never pick up a girl by honking and telling her she has a hot ass as you fly by in your car. And the other thing, a lot of times the people doing the honking and yelling are the less attractive ones. You very rarely see a super attractive guy hanging his head out of the car window, howling like a dog at a pretty girl. And you know why that is? It’s because he has game and can meet people in a one on one setting. Learn something from the hot guys, creepy honking howlers!
It is nice to know that people find you attractive, but at the same time it gets old getting cat called all of the time. I appreciate it much more when someone tells me I look nice or I am pretty. It seems a lot more genuine, and not so skeevy.
You want to know what really bugs me? When I’m in the grocery store and am not feeling well, and am looking schlumpy and someone tries to hit on me. Seriously? I look like shit. No I don’t want to talk to you. I want to get my food and get the hell out of here. Leave me alone.
You know what I think? It’s time we give guys some of their own medicine. Let them know what it feels like to be constantly hollered and honked at. And the way to do it…it’s called “Hey Boy.” A bunch of my friends play this game when we get together, and basically it involves you shouting “Hey boy, let me holla at you!” and see if they turn around. If they look, you get a point. The winner is the girl with the most looks at the end of the night. To kick it up a notch, you can even add in “I need 10 things from you. 1-2-3-4-5-6-7-8-9-10, them digits” and see if you get a number. It’s stupid and corny, but a lot of fun. And it turns the table on the guys who always “hey girl” you.
That’s the goofy way my girl friends and I deal with cat calls. What do you do? What is your reaction when someone honks or hollers at you?
So, I’ve been on this major cooking kick for the past few days. Maybe it was because I felt like we were in a food slump, constantly eating the same things whether we were making them or going out to eat them. So, I’ve started actively searching out new recipes.
Yesterday towards the end of work, I hit up Food Network to see what I could find. Being that it was a weekday, I started looking at some of Rachel Ray’s top 30 Minute Meals recipes. I’ve always liked every one of her recipes I’ve tried, plus I love the idea of them taking only 30 minutes. Even though they never really do. Maybe if I had some help, it would be different. But who knows.
I stumbled across these two dishes that looked marvelous and pretty simple, so I thought why the hell not. In the end it took me a little over an hour from start to finish with all of the chopping and actual cooking time, but it was well worth it. The Chicken with Spinach, Feta and Sun Dried Tomatoes in Phyllo cups was amazing, and so was the Chic Greek Salad. Even though I forgot to add the red pepper in, and I left out the tuna. Since I have red pepper left, I will make some fajitas tonight. Yummy!
For your drooling pleasure…
Isn’t this the prettiest looking salad you have ever seen? And it tastes amazing!
The delicious chicken mixture in my handmade phyllo cups.
Sorry all of my pictures are off of my phone, but I can’t find the cord for my camera and my SD slot in my computer isn’t working anymore for some strange reason. For now this will have to do! 🙂
I’m not letting the recession stop me, because I am single-handedly trying to keep the economy running by constantly spending money (haha, ok not really). I signed up for Netflix the other day, and I can’t wait to get our first movie. I think it’s supposed to arrive today. Fingers crossed, because I really want to watch it tonight. It’s the Korean film that The Uninvited is based on.
I did some online shopping at Target the other day because I wanted something cute to wear out for our Valentine’s Dinner. So I ended up ordering 2 different black dresses and Pineapple Express for T as a V-day present because he’s been dying to see it ever since it came out. I hope the dresses fit me. I hate ordering online since I am fairly chesty (not that I’m complaining) and never know what size to get to fit the twins. Sigh…
Ok ok, I know I’m being a bit dramatic, but it’s my blog and I can do what I want!
As some of you may remember, I am planning a few trips for 2009. The problem is that I work in a really small office. There are 5 of us (the boss, 2 full time girls, and 2 part time girls). This always seems to make taking time off for extended vacays a bit of an issue. Mel (the other full time girl) and I try to make sure that we schedule our trips during different weeks so we don’t leave the office in such a lurch because we’re nice like that. But still, it’s a pain in the ass. The other part time girls basically just say, “I need this time off” or “I will be gone on these days.” I sometimes feel like it doesn’t work that way for Mel and me.
So here are my questions for you.
To me option 1 feels like you are asking a parent for permission, which I don’t like in a work environment. I’m leaning towards option 2.
See, the reason this is a bit of an issue to me is that I’ve always worked in small companies, so there never really has been a real procedure to follow when requesting time off. I know in some places you fill out a form and have to get it approved. In T’s case, he just marks dates off on an online scheduling system, and he is good to go.
I don’t want my boss to feel like I’m taking advantage of her by just telling her I’m taking time off, because I’m not trying to do that. Plus I have time that I am allowed to take. But at the same time, I don’t want to feel like I’m asking permission to live my life. I don’t want to ask, and have to wait forever for a response because she responds with “we’ll see how everything is going closer to the time you want to go.” I want to start planning and booking things now, especially if I find a good deal on something. You know what I mean?
This weekend was one of those where you crammed in a whole bunch of stuff that you don’t normally do, and it was awesome. I had so much fun, I didn’t want it to end yesterday.
Friday night, T and I decided to have a dinner and a movie date. We found a theater in Atlanta that served food and drinks, so we opted to go there. It was really nice, much nicer than I had expected. The theater had recently been converted to a dinner theater, so everything was nice and new. The prices for food and drinks were very reasonable, much more reasonable than going to a normal movie theater and spending $14 on popcorn and a drink.
We decided to see The Uninvited since we are both scary/suspense movie fans. Let me tell you, it was an awesome movie! We couldn’t stop talking about it after we’d left the theater. If you want to see a really great movie, I totally recommend it. It’s one of the better scary films I’ve seen lately. A lot of the scary films that are released these days are more of a let down/cheesey than a good watch.
After the movie, we met up with a bunch of friends for bowling. I always forget how much I like to bowl, until I do it. It’s been months since I’ve last bowled, and even though we only got to play one game (we had 8 people in our lane – one game took 1.5 hours), we had a lot of fun. I even broke 100! Normally it takes me a a warm up game to score that high.
Saturday was a day filled with culinary mastery! I’d seen a really great recipe for soup and paninis on Tyler’s Ultimate, so T and I decided we would make them ourselves. We went to Whole Foods and spent a small fortune bought the ingredients for our meal, then headed home to cook up some delicious lunch. We made his Ultimate Chicken Noodle Soup and Mozzarella Grilled Cheese, and they were so good! The soup was a twist on chicken noodle, and it used cheese tortellini and chicken meatballs. The sandwiches used fresh mozzarella, tomatoes and homemade pesto. It was our first time ever making pesto, and it turned out well (go T!).
I just read a review that stated the recipe for the chicken meatballs left out the breadcrumbs. Haha, no wonder I had some trouble getting them to stick together. They were more like blobs than balls, but they still tasted amazing! See the chicken blobs in the soup?
Saturday night, we got a big group together to do Korean Karaoke. If you have never done this before, it is one of the best ways to karaoke, especially if you are shy about singing in front of strangers. Basically, you rent out a room with friends and have your very own karaoke show. You get to pick the songs, and a lot of the rooms have special added features like disco balls and colored lights that start up every time you start singing a song. It’s hilarious, especially when you pick weird ass songs that everyone knows but is sometimes embarrassed to say they like. We ended up singing for about 3 hours. I’m seriously surprised that I had a voice yesterday!
Sunday T and I branched out and went to the ballet to see Dracula. I love the movie, so I thought the ballet would be a fun way to experience the story. It was cool, even though I got a little tired of the gratuitous dancing scenes. I know it’s supposed to be about dancing, but there was this one tea party scene where the story basically stopped and everyone just danced for like 15 minutes. We both enjoyed ourselves, even though T had a hard time not cracking up during some of the acts. Some parts featuring Dracula and the other male characters were really sexual and slightly bizarre, and I could hear him fighting back laughter.
Sunday night, we busted out some more of our culinary skills and made Roast Leg of Lamb with Dark Beer, Honey and Thyme for dinner. Apparently this was a Tyler Florence weekend since this was another one of his recipes. We were a little nervous about preparing lamb since neither one of us had done it before, but it turned out well. The sauce was a little sweet, so next time we’ll probably use a little less honey. We roasted asparagus and made garlic mashed potatoes with it. We still have a ton of lamb left, so we’ll be having it for dinner again.
So, how was your weekend? Did you do anything exciting or different? 🙂